Online Dating Tip: Searching Match.com

So, when searching for potential mates on the likes of Match.com there are a couple of things to keep in mind.

1. Filter by Activity Date, with the most recent first. I can't stress this enough! The girls you want to talk to are the ones that are active - that means no more than 3 days between logins. Why? First, it shows proactive interest in meeting someone - and - she's getting regular attention from other members and returning to check out their profiles. Second, it shows she's (most likely) still a member. If there's more than that amount of time between logins then there's a good probability that she's no longer an active member. If it shows "more than 3 weeks" since last login - totally forget it. She's no longer active and will likely need to pay Match.com to read your e-mail to her. The chances of that happening are akin to lottery odds. Avoid. NB: "Newest First" and "Activity Date" are not the same thing. "Newest First" is also interesting, but "Activity Date" is the key thing to look for.

2. Decide how far away you are willing to travel. I'd suggest no more than 50 miles, unless you're strictly looking for a booty call. Then, make sure you adjust your search parameters accordingly. More on using distance to your advantage.

3. You can try a keyword search for things that interest you, like "sailing", "golf", whatever. This can be hit or miss - but, at least to me, the more athletic girls are often more attractive. Believe it or not, the default "adventurous" is actually a pretty good starting point.

4. Body type. Ah, here's a fun one. Well, here's the thing - if you're into a little bigger girls then "A Few Extra Pounds", "Full Figured" and "Curvy" are basically the same thing - think around 200lbs give or take. These are the girls that try harder and can be a blast to hook up with if you are into that sort of thing. "Big and Beautiful" and "Heavyset" mean they are really big. "Slender" and "Athletic and toned" generally are pretty accurate - meaning nice ass, but boob lovers will usually be disappointed. The gray area is "About average". This can mean anything, really. This is where you are most likely to be surprised (usually unpleasantly) upon meeting in person. As always, beware of FGAS!

5. Be sure to check out the link to "Who's Viewed Me". This is usually my starting point, as these girls have already taken the time to check out your profile - meaning they may have found something they like and are waiting in their passive-aggressive way for you to contact them. Historically speaking, I've the most success getting back to the women that have already looked at my own profile. Also, when you first view "her" profile, you can check back a couple of days later to see if she looked at yours as well.

6. Be sure to check out "Who's Favorited Me" as well for the same reason. There will be far fewer (if any) profiles in here. If there are, she's likely a very easy score for you. Note: NEVER favorite a woman. It shows them way too much interest = she can easily have you = she won't want you. Women want what they CAN'T have, not what they can. Lame, but true. If you want proof, call a woman out on that point and watch how defensive she gets. That's all the answer you'll need.

Remember, online dating is a numbers game. Don't be disappointed if you don't get replies - just keep trying.